A year ago, Americans were shocked by the tragic loss of 20 children and 6 teachers at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Are you surprised Congress has not passed any new gun control laws? If legislators can’t pass laws, perhaps, we need to focus in a different direction!
All school shooters and violent gang members have something in common. Adam Lanza, the Sandy Hook shooter, was an angry, lonely, troubled young man who was socially isolated with access to guns and violent video games. Just like other violent young men, he lacked strong male role models in his life and a neighborhood and community support system. He didn’t have any spiritual guidance to help develop his coping skills in order to handle his emotions. He was a candidate for mental problems and violent behavior.
If we are going to stop gun violence, let’s start a discussion on what city leaders can do to help strengthen families.
As a crime and violence prevention specialist for 38 years, I see a critical need to address fear and social isolation that drives people to buy guns. When we understand the importance of involvement and neighborhood responsibility, we can restore a sense of community. Disconnected families will discover they are not alone. New neighborhood mentors and role models will emerge as neighbors build trust. Youth need people who care and offer support to help them reach their potential.
Connected and involved neighbors can help cities save millions of dollars. Citizens would no longer feel the need to buy a gun for protection as they help youth stay out of the criminal justice system. Everyone benefits.
WHAT ELECTED, CIVIC AND RELIGIOUS LEADERS CAN DO to create positive, citywide change!
Civic and religious leaders can talk to local elected officials about creating a…
Citizens’ Task Force to focus on strengthening families.
GOAL: Strengthen families through neighborhood support and encourage healthy role models for youth! Citizen involvement reduces fear, anger, stress and isolation, as neighbors work together and build trust.
HOW? Elected and religious leaders have the ability to influence citizens to take charge of their neighborhood safety, which will help strengthen families.
WHY? In cities large and small, families experience divorce, bullying, domestic violence, child abuse, and drug and alcohol abuse. When neighbors get connected, they can help restore a stronger sense of community support.
WHO? Encourage city leaders to appoint a volunteer citizens’ or youth task force to develop a plan to help residents get connected. Depending on city population, appoint a group of 8 to 10 community “doers” to discuss local concerns and focus on a plan of action.
RESIDENTS NEED ENCOURAGEMENT AND LEADERSHIP:
Task Force members can take an active role in speaking to schools, civic and religious groups about the plan. For example: “Adopt-A-Block” can be implemented citywide. Encourage adults and youth to conduct a neighborhood survey. Get willing neighbors together and appoint leaders. Evaluate results and address concerns.
Ideas to get more neighbors and youth involved:
- Clean up graffiti and/or the neighborhood
- Plan a potluck Block Party or social gathering
- Hold an emergency Preparedness meeting
- Moms organize a baby-sitting co-op
- Plant a community garden
- Paint house numbers on curbs (Project for teens)
- Offer leadership training
Reducing fear and building trust is a long-range approach to stopping gun violence. We can no longer afford to ignore the importance of family support and neighborhood involvement if we are going to keep citizens safe and protect our children.
Stephanie L. Mann, Crime and Violence Prevention Consultant
Safe Kids Now
For more information: www.safekidsnow.com
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Showing posts with label kids. Show all posts
Thursday, December 12, 2013
After SANDY HOOK: Look Beyond Gun Control!
Saturday, February 2, 2013
GUN Violence: Symptom of Unmet Needs!
If we are going to stop gun violence, think like a mother (and some men). PREVENTION starts at home but if children are neglected...neighbors can help.
Find out what children need to help them overcome pain and hurtful events.
For more information or to join our Safe Kids Now Network, email us at: safeneighborhoods@gmail.com
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Spiritual Crisis in America-Kids and Drugs-Part 3
PARENTS: Children need a foundation of values and a spiritual understanding of self to resist drugs! Or, they may experience a bumpy road ahead! Empower children so they will not be easy targets for manipulation or bullies.

Involved children can smooth out life's journey! Parents will have less stress and anxiety because children have the tools to make good choices to help them reach their potential.
Help is available.
To review all Safe Kids Now Podcasts Click HERE

Involved children can smooth out life's journey! Parents will have less stress and anxiety because children have the tools to make good choices to help them reach their potential.
Help is available.
To review all Safe Kids Now Podcasts Click HERE
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Spiritual Crisis in America! Part 2-Kids and Violence
I've condensed my 35 years of violence prevention into a few minutes. Children can stay safe and avoid becoming bullies or victims! Find out what I learned that keeps children safe as they learn to grow strong and resilient.
BLUE CHILD, victim child CENTERED (safer) CHILD RED CHILD, bully child
We all have the power to decide how to behave if we have the emotional tools to make that decision -
Find out what you can do to empower your child!
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BLUE CHILD, victim child CENTERED (safer) CHILD RED CHILD, bully child
We all have the power to decide how to behave if we have the emotional tools to make that decision -
Find out what you can do to empower your child!
http://www.safekidsnow.podomatic.com
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Stopping Child Abuse!
Do you know the signs of child abuse? Children need ALL OF US to speak up to help make families stronger and more resilient! We can stop child abuse.
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Thursday, November 8, 2012
Are you raising a Bully, "Pin Cushion" Child or a Centered child?

Bully behavior starts at an early age!
1 in 3 children are victims of bullies! Teach children how to speak up with self-confidence or they can become victims.
Bullies must modify their behavior. Victims must develop self-confidence. Listen to the "Safe Kids" series on Bullies, Parenting, Pin Cushion Kids.
Next week, "Why TEENS become self-destructive!"
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Monday, May 23, 2011
Cyberbullying Tips For Parents
• Give kids a code of conduct. Tell them if they wouldn't say something to someone's face, they shouldn't text it, instant message it or post it.
• Ask if they know someone who has been cyberbullied. Sometimes kids will open up about someone's pain before admitting their own.
• Establish consequences for bullying behavior.
• Monitor their media use.
• Tell kids not to share passwords with friends.
• Use privacy settings.
• Remind them... all private information can be made public.
• Tell kids what to do if they're harassed: Block bullies and inform parents or trusted adults. Save evidence in case it is need for reporting.
Source: Common Sense Media
• Ask if they know someone who has been cyberbullied. Sometimes kids will open up about someone's pain before admitting their own.
• Establish consequences for bullying behavior.
• Monitor their media use.
• Tell kids not to share passwords with friends.
• Use privacy settings.
• Remind them... all private information can be made public.
• Tell kids what to do if they're harassed: Block bullies and inform parents or trusted adults. Save evidence in case it is need for reporting.
Source: Common Sense Media
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
10 Things more important than money$$
By Scott Hammond
Author: Become A Better Father
Too often in our capitalistic society, we place too much emphasis on financial achievement and too little on the importance of living a purpose driven life.
1. Family… your spouse, your parents, and her kids should come first. Just simply providing for them does not make your family, your number one priority. There is far more you can do for them with quality and quantity time. Love is spelled…. TIME.
2. Friends… the older some of us get, the less time we have for our friends. Some people get too busy climbing the success ladder and may not even make time for friends. Big mistake. So many things in our society are disposable, and sadly, friends too often fall into that category. Take time to invest in your friendships, both old and new. How hard is it to schedule a Starbucks coffee, pick up the phone, or write an e-mail?
3. Your health… stress, poor diet, lack of exercise, poor relationships with you and your family… all of these can adversely affect your health. Getting caught up in your career and working endless hours can also lead to neglect of one’s health. Workaholism can be deadly. The lack of discipline in making exercise, sleep, a good diet, and a healthy lifestyle can be dangerous if not deadly as well. You get one body, take care of it and treat it with the respect it deserves.
4. Kids… investing in your kids is absolutely one of the best investments you can make. Understanding how to relate to, love, care for, and communicate with your kids is vital to becoming a more fulfilled and complete person. Our future is our children. What kind of legacy are you leaving behind? Relationships that are fully orbed or just a fat portfolio?
5. Education… being a lifelong learner is a lifelong process. It’s not about being enrolled in the school or a fancy college or receiving a piece of paper. It is, however, about being someone who is hungry to learn, willing to change, and ready to embrace new ways of looking at life and the universe. As long as you have your mental capacities, you can keep learning and building on what you already know. Your mind is a terrible thing to waste.
6. Having fun… people get so caught up in society’s money game that wealth becomes an addiction, an obsession, and the purpose for their existence. How many wealthy people aren’t healthy people who spend far too much time and energy chasing promotions, money, and possessions. We can end up with lots of toys and turn out to be pretty unhappy people… big mistake.
7. Solving social problems… how can you be a voice in society for those who do not have the ability to speak for themselves? Whether it’s poverty, divorce, suicide, teenage pregnancy, name your issue… you can have a voice and be part of the solution rather than part of the problem. Your community is full of opportunities for you to volunteer, donate time or money, and get involved.
8. Your neighbors… give the neighbors a chance. Don’t write them off because they aren’t the same age, race, or occupation as you. What’s the sense of neglecting neighbors, since they can be sources of friendship, if given a chance? Part of our connection to the greater society is defined by our neighborhoods, which are full of neighbors— who could be friends we haven’t met yet.
9. Appreciating/valuing what you have… right now make a list of 10 things that you really appreciate. What is on your list? Despite our overall affluence, we still lament material things we lack rather than appreciating and valuing the material and nonmaterial things we do have. Don’t forget relationships.
10. Your reputation… a good name is to be had above riches. It takes a lifetime to build a reputation, but only moments to lose it. We chase after many things in life, and we often de-value and under-invest in relationships which should have our focus and priority. How many men have thrown it all away in a quick but twisted attempt at some forbidden fruit?
For More information about "Become A Better Father"
www.becomeabetterfather.com/press
Author: Become A Better Father
Too often in our capitalistic society, we place too much emphasis on financial achievement and too little on the importance of living a purpose driven life.
1. Family… your spouse, your parents, and her kids should come first. Just simply providing for them does not make your family, your number one priority. There is far more you can do for them with quality and quantity time. Love is spelled…. TIME.
2. Friends… the older some of us get, the less time we have for our friends. Some people get too busy climbing the success ladder and may not even make time for friends. Big mistake. So many things in our society are disposable, and sadly, friends too often fall into that category. Take time to invest in your friendships, both old and new. How hard is it to schedule a Starbucks coffee, pick up the phone, or write an e-mail?
3. Your health… stress, poor diet, lack of exercise, poor relationships with you and your family… all of these can adversely affect your health. Getting caught up in your career and working endless hours can also lead to neglect of one’s health. Workaholism can be deadly. The lack of discipline in making exercise, sleep, a good diet, and a healthy lifestyle can be dangerous if not deadly as well. You get one body, take care of it and treat it with the respect it deserves.
4. Kids… investing in your kids is absolutely one of the best investments you can make. Understanding how to relate to, love, care for, and communicate with your kids is vital to becoming a more fulfilled and complete person. Our future is our children. What kind of legacy are you leaving behind? Relationships that are fully orbed or just a fat portfolio?
5. Education… being a lifelong learner is a lifelong process. It’s not about being enrolled in the school or a fancy college or receiving a piece of paper. It is, however, about being someone who is hungry to learn, willing to change, and ready to embrace new ways of looking at life and the universe. As long as you have your mental capacities, you can keep learning and building on what you already know. Your mind is a terrible thing to waste.
6. Having fun… people get so caught up in society’s money game that wealth becomes an addiction, an obsession, and the purpose for their existence. How many wealthy people aren’t healthy people who spend far too much time and energy chasing promotions, money, and possessions. We can end up with lots of toys and turn out to be pretty unhappy people… big mistake.
7. Solving social problems… how can you be a voice in society for those who do not have the ability to speak for themselves? Whether it’s poverty, divorce, suicide, teenage pregnancy, name your issue… you can have a voice and be part of the solution rather than part of the problem. Your community is full of opportunities for you to volunteer, donate time or money, and get involved.
8. Your neighbors… give the neighbors a chance. Don’t write them off because they aren’t the same age, race, or occupation as you. What’s the sense of neglecting neighbors, since they can be sources of friendship, if given a chance? Part of our connection to the greater society is defined by our neighborhoods, which are full of neighbors— who could be friends we haven’t met yet.
9. Appreciating/valuing what you have… right now make a list of 10 things that you really appreciate. What is on your list? Despite our overall affluence, we still lament material things we lack rather than appreciating and valuing the material and nonmaterial things we do have. Don’t forget relationships.
10. Your reputation… a good name is to be had above riches. It takes a lifetime to build a reputation, but only moments to lose it. We chase after many things in life, and we often de-value and under-invest in relationships which should have our focus and priority. How many men have thrown it all away in a quick but twisted attempt at some forbidden fruit?
For More information about "Become A Better Father"
www.becomeabetterfather.com/press
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Kids in Crisis: Share your ideas!
The California Youth Crisis Line receives around 21,000 calls annually. Youth are calling about homelessness, depression, teen pregnancy, substance abuse, suicide and more. Budget cuts are limiting crisis line services.
Share your thoughts! What can citizens do to help youth get connected?
Share your thoughts! What can citizens do to help youth get connected?
Saturday, May 8, 2010
MAKE AN IMPACT!
If you fear public speaking, this is NOT for you.
However...if you want to help your city grow safer this summer, join us on the National Safe Kids Now Speaker's Bureau.
Your city needs you to speak up about what it will take to create safe neighborhoods for everyone.
See, The Adopt-A-Block Guidebook at www.safekidsnow.com Safe Kids Now! staff offers 3 FREE teleconferences to help you get started.
YOU CAN MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE IN YOUR CITY
Questions? safeneighborhoods@gmail.com
However...if you want to help your city grow safer this summer, join us on the National Safe Kids Now Speaker's Bureau.
Your city needs you to speak up about what it will take to create safe neighborhoods for everyone.
See, The Adopt-A-Block Guidebook at www.safekidsnow.com Safe Kids Now! staff offers 3 FREE teleconferences to help you get started.
YOU CAN MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE IN YOUR CITY
Questions? safeneighborhoods@gmail.com
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Drug Education
Involved PARENTS & drug educators are making a difference!
Educating kids in Middle School pays off!!
In 2004...43% of at high risk for using Ecstasy.
In 2009...Ecstasy down to 34%
In 1993...LSD use at 42%
In 2009...LSD use down to 21%
In 2001...Inhalants 46%
In 2009...Inhalants down to 34% (Source: OJJPD)
ARE YOU KNOWLEDGEABLE & DISCUSSING DRUGS WITH YOUR CHILD?
Check out...National Institute of Drug Abuse at: www.drugabuse.gov
Educating kids in Middle School pays off!!
In 2004...43% of at high risk for using Ecstasy.
In 2009...Ecstasy down to 34%
In 1993...LSD use at 42%
In 2009...LSD use down to 21%
In 2001...Inhalants 46%
In 2009...Inhalants down to 34% (Source: OJJPD)
ARE YOU KNOWLEDGEABLE & DISCUSSING DRUGS WITH YOUR CHILD?
Check out...National Institute of Drug Abuse at: www.drugabuse.gov
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